I kinda have a boyfriend…but I realized a long time ago already that we really were better of just being friends…
But he didn't…and I don't wanna hurt him…I mean he's sweet…he can go on and on about things I really don't care about (games and computers) but he's nice and I don't want to hurt him…other problem is he's good friends with my brother and well…if I hurt his friend he will go yell at me…
I thought why not just not mail and call often and let time break us up ya know and that happened, we hardly spoke in weeks but now we both have vacation and well I can't use school as an excuse…and apperently time hasn't broken us up 'cause he's more into me then ever :o
And yes this is a big deal for me 'cause I'm sort of his first girlfriend and I really DON'T want to hurt him.

I think you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes.
Just tell him you think you's would be better as just friends or whatever.
I'm not good with breaking up with people but I know that you should do
it sooner rather than later!

I agree with completeimperfection. Sometimes you do have to be cruel to be kind. Plus, the way I look at it is: Which is crueler? Breaking up with him now, or leaving him hangning, and let him think everythings cool? It sounds harsh, but its a better way of looking at things sometimes.

Al you have to say is (obviously, this is powerphrased, you would be able to make it sound nicer): 'These last however long has been great, but I think of you more as a close friend. I'm really sorry, and I really don't want to hurt your feelings, or hurt you in any way. i do like you, but not like how I think you like me. Could we be friends?' It's rough and sketchy, but the general gist of how I've browken up with people, and I've stayed reasonable friends with them. Plus, if he's a sweet as you say he is, I'm sure he'll uinderstand, not right away, but he will.

Oh, and if ya brother yells, tell him to get a life, it's your decision, not his, and if he likes him that much he can go out with him.

Haha!!! :lol: :lol:

Good one!

Yes, I think both of you are right. I think you need to save him from hurting himself more by falling for you even more as time goes on. The longer the relationship goes on, the more hurt he'll be. Be kind and caring in how you say it, like criminalmind's version, and he should understand...

i think the best thing to do is just tell him the truth...because the more you lead him on, the more it's gonna hurt him when you do break up with him

and don't worry about you're brother, he'll get over it, you're his sister

I broke up with him ;) But I might get a problem along the way, see he sees it as a temporary break up…didn't really have the hearts to tell him differently…but temporary or not, were in the just friends category now ;)

temporary...sounds like spencer and heidi from the hills!!
well i'm glad you told him one way or another.
if he talks about getting back together say that you have realised your feelings for him are more as friends!

Ugh, please don't bring up Speidi! :rolleyes:

I think you did the right thing, and I get that you could only manage to tell him that it's a temporary thing. Eventually he'll get the message. And you're very lucky that he still wants to be friends. Sometimes guys just want to run away with their tail between their legs and then treat you like you're Satan's best friend.

And yes, I'm speaking from experience.

But this isn't about me, this is about you. So I'm glad you managed to break up with him. ;)